Sunday, May 11, 2014

Magic of Marriage

A     L     O     H     A  !
A moment in time by Whitney Houston on Grooveshark
" Judge nothing, 
you will be happy.
 Forgive everything, 
you will be happier.
 Love everything, 
you will be happiest.” 

Sri Chinmoy















" The price
of hating other human beings
is loving oneself
less. "

Eldridge Cleaver













“ The important thing
 is not to think much 
but to love much; 
and so do that 
which best stirs 
you to love. ” 

 Teresa of Ávila



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He and I
had been together
for years.

What would
marriage 
add?


Just a piece of paper,
right?

And what about
those who cannot
be married?

Nonetheless,
it seemed 
the time.

We went to the judge
at his lunchtime.

One handful of friends
were there.

I figure we started our 
marriage
$30,000 ahead
that way.

Things sure felt
different afterward.


I felt different.


So did he.

I don't know why.

We both felt it.

The next morning
before awakening
I 'dreamed' of being
in an old fashioned room.

Women
whose faces I couldn't see
sat around the perimeter.
Light poured in through
windows,
but I could discern nothing
through them.

These women
were my ancestresses;
somehow I simply knew that;
Grandma, Auntie
 who I had known,
& further back
who I'd never 
met.



A hand,
an old woman's hand,
manicured,
gnarled, familiar-
handed me a small plate.

On that plate:
a slice of
Honey Cake.

Honey Cake!

Like grandma used to bring!

Hadn't thought of it
in years.

Hadn't SEEN it
longer.


Later that day
we were shopping
at the usual place.

And there on the shelf
a new item,
or simply never noticed before:
Honey Cake!

I remembered
the 'dream.'

I knew it was the welcome
of the women
in my line;

When I became
a married lady
somehow
I joined their 
ranks.

Honey Cake. . .

We'll sit together
 in that room,
drinking tea
and sharing
Honey Cake.

Not a bad way
to spend
some Heaven.


What will you 
do?  eat? share?
with YOUr ancestors
later?
Please share in comments.

And thanks so much for visiting!

                        Warmly, cloudia









23 comments:

Weekend-Windup said...

Enjoyed all your wordings. Especially i love the first one!

EG CameraGirl said...

I especially loved the wisdom of Sri Chinmoy. :)

eViL pOp TaRt said...

A wonderful post.

I hope to go to Mardi Gras with my ancestors, and have some King Cake. I know it's so-so in taste, but it's traditional.

But, better tasting, beignets and café au lait! Yes! We drink coffee together and let the good times roll.

Anonymous said...

Really nice reflections. Yeah, that piece of paper somehow does makes some difference: really hones in on the commitment part. SO glad you have some very nice memories. Not so sure I joined ranks of women from my past, as much as I bucked so much meaningless tradition. Even Ann Landers said I had a right to get married the way I wanted. (1974) My grandmother's recipe for whole, baked, pastry-covered apple dumplings are the "love food" in my family. Been making them since jr. high school. As a young adult, every man I made apple dumplings for, I ended up marrying! Powerful fruit!
DrumMajor

santastu said...

Banana sandwiches,
Very profound memories
of eating them as a small boy
in the park, with mum, happy days
treasured for ever.

TexWisGirl said...

very sweet, cloudia.

EriKa Napoletano said...

Very nice quotes! kisses from Italy.
:))))))

Adam said...

great quotes

Charles Gramlich said...

So you kind of had your wedding and got cake too. :)

ifthethunderdontgetya™³²®© said...

"If you can't be at the beach, visit cloudia's blog. It's the next best thing!"

~

PerthDailyPhoto said...

Oh wow that is amazing after all those years Cloudia.. I know many people who have done the same, isn't it funny to think that nothing has really changed yet everything has! Congratulations by the way :)

Cloudia said...

Your comments today are like wedding gifts! I love opening them.


Thanks, Friends

Elephant's Child said...

Gorgeous. We have never taken the marriage step, but are committed (should be committed?).
I would love to sit down with my ancestors and hear their stories. Share their wisdom... Other than my immediate family I have never known any of them. The immediate family didn't have an intimate relationship with truth so there is a lot of listening to do.

Birdman said...

... a pint!

William Kendall said...

Gorgeous shots!

DeniseinVA said...

A beautiful dream :) There are so many things I would like to share with my ancestors. I would like to meet one whom I resembled more than any other and listen to her life story.

Small Kucing said...

How true... :)

Chuck Bear said...

You write a wonderful blog!

Cloudia said...

Gosh thanks, each of You, for sharing today!

magiceye said...

I will share travel stories and the wonderful people I met on the way.

Namaste /\ from Mumbai
Aloha!

Brian Miller said...

i think marriage makes that bond something different for sure...and it is sad that it is not available to all...love that first quote too....hope you have a great start to the week...

aloha from va

Other Mary said...

Love the quotes and the verse. Is this a true story? If so congratulations! Great write either way though.

Kay said...

I tell my son this about marriage, but he doesn't believe me. He and Sarah truly believe it would just be a piece of paper. I believe it really is quite a bit more. Beautiful post, Cloudia.